by Harper West | Feb 5, 2023 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people ask me how to spot a narcissist or what I call an “Other-Blamer” early on in relationships. Watching for the following “verbal tells” is one way to do it. We often think of lack of accountability as the inability to admit fault and apologize. However, we...
by Harper West | Dec 26, 2021 | Empathy, Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people are aware of the need to set boundaries with others, especially with those who have narcissistic or Other-Blamer traits. Often the focus is on setting limitations on behaviors and words, such as telling your spouse that they cannot swear at you or they...
by Harper West | Dec 14, 2021 | Domestic Violence, Other-Blamer, Relationships
Janine is divorcing her emotionally abusive narcissistic husband and our weekly therapy sessions are often an exploration of her rollercoaster of conflicting feelings. She is grieving a marriage ending and life not turning out as she had hoped. Naturally, she has...
by Harper West | Sep 28, 2021 | Other-Blamer, Trump
As expertly deconstructed by blogger Lucian K. Truscott IV, COVID deaths are increasingly segmented into “red states” with high rates of death and low rates of vaccination and “blue states” with the opposite. As this disparity is becoming increasingly obvious,...
by Harper West | Aug 26, 2021 | Relationships
One of my local radio stations has a morning show feature called Dealbreakers, where they have one person call in to complain about a partner and seek advice about whether this complaint is a dealbreaker worth ending the relationship over. I heard one show...
