by Harper West | Feb 5, 2023 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people ask me how to spot a narcissist or what I call an “Other-Blamer” early on in relationships. Watching for the following “verbal tells” is one way to do it. We often think of lack of accountability as the inability to admit fault and apologize. However, we...
by Harper West | Dec 26, 2021 | Empathy, Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people are aware of the need to set boundaries with others, especially with those who have narcissistic or Other-Blamer traits. Often the focus is on setting limitations on behaviors and words, such as telling your spouse that they cannot swear at you or they...
by Harper West | Dec 14, 2021 | Domestic Violence, Other-Blamer, Relationships
Janine is divorcing her emotionally abusive narcissistic husband and our weekly therapy sessions are often an exploration of her rollercoaster of conflicting feelings. She is grieving a marriage ending and life not turning out as she had hoped. Naturally, she has...
by Harper West | Sep 28, 2021 | Other-Blamer, Trump
As expertly deconstructed by blogger Lucian K. Truscott IV, COVID deaths are increasingly segmented into “red states” with high rates of death and low rates of vaccination and “blue states” with the opposite. As this disparity is becoming increasingly obvious,...
by Harper West | Aug 24, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
If you’ve ever argued with a narcissist you know how maddening it can be. Every logical or factual approach seems to go nowhere and, in fact, seems to make them more angry and defensive. In contrast, explaining your point of view a relationship with an emotionally...
by Harper West | Jul 19, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump, Trump
This Salon article describes what I have said in the past — that it IS (almost) impossible to argue with the right wing. I believe most Trumpers have antisocial or narcissistic personalities and this shows up in how they converse with those who disagree with them. I...
