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Harper West, Psychotherapist & Author

About Harper West, Mindful Self-Compassion Therapist

Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Trained in Mindful Self-Compassion and Compassion-Focused Therapy. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and attachment-focused child and family therapy.

Harper West is a contributing author of #1 Amazon and #4 New York Times bestselling “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump,” and award-winning “Pack Leader Psychology.” Appointed to the Michigan Board of Psychology.

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Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold lacquer, resulting in something more beautiful than the original. In celebrating a history of imperfections, the art form reminds us to embrace our own flaws, perhaps even finding the shining beauty and value in our healed scars.

Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.

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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure with equanimity is self-actualization and enlightenment.

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The Power of Self-Acceptance

Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.
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Improve Your Relationships

What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.
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An Outraged Psychologist Speaks Out

Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.

Individual, Couples & Family Therapy

As a licensed psychotherapist, Harper specializes in helping adults and teens improve self-compassion and self-acceptance, strengthen self-worth, regulate emotions, and develop mindfulness.

In-person counseling appointments are available in the Great Lakes Psychology Group office in Clarkston. Michigan residents throughout the state may schedule online therapy through Telehealth. Learn More about therapy with Harper West.

Recent Blog Posts

Stress & Heart Disease

Chronic psychological stress, recent studies indicate, may be as important — and possibly more important — to the health of your heart than the traditional cardiac risk factors. In fact, in people with less-than-healthy hearts, mental stress trumps physical stress as a potential precipitant of fatal and nonfatal heart attacks and other cardiovascular events, according to the latest report.

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How to Set Emotional Boundaries With a Narcissist

It is important to set boundaries with narcissists, such as setting limitations on behaviors and words. But emotional boundaries that block the incoming feelings of guilt and shame are also important. Victims of narcissistic abuse are often empaths and too easily take on the emotions of guilt and shame as a result of their childhood emotional abuse by parents or siblings who are narcissists.

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Why does he abuse me? Stop asking this question!

Why does he abuse me? Stop asking this question! Victims of abusive and narcissistic relationships often ask “why does he abuse me?” They do this 1) because our primitive brains engage in pattern-finding for make sense of fear 2) trauma bonding 3) love bombing 4) self-blaming tendencies toward “fixing” the self 5) Victim blaming by the abuser 6) victims trained not to hold the abuser accountable

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I write often on topics related to human behavior including self-acceptance, anxiety, depression, shame, trauma, relationships, parenting, mindfulness, and more.