by Harper West | Nov 3, 2025 | Emotional Intelligence, Narcissist, Relationships
When I was in an relationship with an abusive narcissist, he would often accuse me of flirting with men and cheating on him. I now recognize this was almost certainly projection of his own sins, but at the time I didn’t have that understanding. I was a conscientious,...
by Harper West | Mar 26, 2025 | Narcissist, Trump
As an expert in shame and its impact on human behavior, I have been keenly aware of a lack of shame among Republican politicians, especially in the past 10 years. Donald Trump, of course, is leading the competition in his complete lack of humility and in his inability...
by Harper West | Feb 18, 2025 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Humans love a good story, especially one where there is an obvious “bad guy” (or woman!) and a hero or heroine who saves the day. We like things clearcut and simple because it helps our brains see and make sense of patterns in our lives. We like certainty and don’t...
by Harper West | May 10, 2024 | Narcissist
I’ve written a very widely read blog on narcissistic siblings where I shared my experience with my narcissistic older sister, Lynn. After I left an abusive marriage and learned about narcissists (and later became a psychologist), I discovered many negative family...
by Harper West | Mar 21, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Narcissist, Relationships
Jaclyn* spent her first two sessions of psychotherapy listing all the ways her husband was difficult to deal with. Some of these sounded like typical complaints in a relationship, such as he spent too much time playing video games and he didn’t help enough with...
by Harper West | Feb 12, 2024 | Narcissist
One abusive tactic narcissists or Other-blamers use in their relationships is to sow self-doubt in the victim, so that the victim is emotionally weakened and has less confidence. This has several benefits to the narcissist. First, it helps the narc ensure that the...
