How to Identify Low Self-Worth in Children
Would you believe that I can spot low self-worth and poor shame tolerance even in a child as young as three? It’s true. Sometimes it is obvious. I have worked with three- and four-year old children who say things like: “I’m no good,” and “I’m a bad kid.” These...
How to Really Improve Communication in Your Relationship Through Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples uses a paradigm of negative communication patterns that most couples engage in. Couples learn to identify triggering behaviors or words, secondary emotions of anger and withdrawing, and primary or deeper emotions, such as shame, hurt, disappointment. Attachment fear of being rejected, unloved or unwanted drive the patterns. In EFT, we try to get couples to notice this pattern and to become aware of their own deeper emotional responses as part of that pattern.
Emotional Contagion: How We “Catch” the Feelings of Others
Our brain contains mirror neurons, designed to pick up on the emotional status of our companions and react to emotions. This ability to read, attune to, and respond to emotions of others is called emotional contagion. While this system is very helpful when we are in relationships with kind, fair, calm, and emotionally balanced people, it can go haywire if we spend time with people who are insecure, anxious, depressed, narcissistic, or angry.
It IS (almost) Impossible to Argue with the Right
This Salon article describes what I have said in the past — that it IS (almost) impossible to argue with the right wing. I believe most Trumpers have antisocial or narcissistic personalities and this shows up in how they converse with those who disagree with them. I...
WHAT IS INTRUSIVE PARENTING AND HOW TO STOP IT
Intrusive parents can cause children to feel a need to exert control and gain a sense of autonomy, perhaps through behaviors such as refusing to toilet train, as this child had. Others may develop issues with food, becoming picky eaters or refusing to eat. In adolescence this may show up as the eating disorders of anorexia or bulimia, extreme rebelliousness, and promiscuous sexual behavior.
How Does a Narcissistic Sibling Affect the Personality of a Brother or Sister?
It is so very sad that the wounded and traumatized narcissistic child inadvertently harms and traumatizes his or her siblings. We can be understanding that they do this in an attempt to get their own emotional needs met, but, as all narcs do, they sow emotional destruction in the relationships around them. It is sad, too, that the victims are left without the close, loving, supportive relationship of a brother or sister — a deep, relational trauma and loss that can affect their sense of self and safety in relationships throughout their life.
How to Break Free From a Narcissist and Set Emotional Boundaries
Learn how to break free from a narcissist and set emotional boundaries by first recognizing their insecurities and fear of shame. Gain power in toxic relationships by understanding the narcissistic wound.
Facts on Psychiatric Drugs
Psychiatrists have tried for decades to find a biological cause for human behavior, such as a deficiency in serotonin that supposedly causes depression or an excess of dopamine that supposedly causes schizophrenia. Despite what the advertising and marketing campaigns...
Psychiatric Drug Withdrawal Resources
Considering how to withdraw from psychiatric medications requires information on psychiatric drugs and how to wean or taper from psychiatric drugs.
Father’s Trauma History Linked to Child’s Emotional Problems
I'm sharing this fascinating article on a study about the impact of a father's trauma history on a child's mental health. "New research from Romania has demonstrated a clear correlation between adverse childhood experiences in fathers’ lives and their children’s...