by Harper West | Feb 5, 2023 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people ask me how to spot a narcissist or what I call an “Other-Blamer” early on in relationships. Watching for the following “verbal tells” is one way to do it. We often think of lack of accountability as the inability to admit fault and apologize. However, we...
by Harper West | Dec 26, 2021 | Empathy, Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people are aware of the need to set boundaries with others, especially with those who have narcissistic or Other-Blamer traits. Often the focus is on setting limitations on behaviors and words, such as telling your spouse that they cannot swear at you or they...
by Harper West | Jun 23, 2019 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
How to Talk to a Narcissist (Other-blamers) The first rule with Other-blamers is: Don’t talk to them if you don’t have to. Disconnect from the relationship physically if possible. If you must deal with a narcissist…Don’t start a conversation with a narcissist without...
by Harper West | Jun 22, 2019 | Other-Blamer
I was recently reminded of an incident involving a spider that provides instructive wisdom on how to spot a narcissist, or what I call an Other-blamer. (Names are changed to protect the guilty parties.) A number of years ago a friend, Patty, called to ask if her...
by Harper West | Aug 22, 2018 | The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump
With the guilty plea and conviction of two of Donald Trump’s closest staffers and friends, we are watching what for many of us is the predictable denouement of Trump’s presidency. Those of us with expertise in abusive and narcissistic relationship patterns have known...
