Lack of Assertiveness & Relationship Problems

When one or both members of a relationship have a lack of assertiveness it can lead to relationship problems. In the short term, not speaking up may feel like a good solution. Unassertive people have good intentions: “If I don’t say anything negative or speak up, it...

Conflict Management Using Assertive Silence

One of the most powerful conflict management tools I learned in my journey to becoming a Pack Leader was to stop talking. I now see silence as a powerful tool in being assertive, although in our verbal society today this may seem counterintuitive. Shouldn’t I talk a...

The Dog That Taught Me About Leadership

As I say in “Pack Leader Psychology,” a growl instantly moved me from pack member to pack leader with my dog, Reilly. But if I hadn’t had a dog that understood how to be a pack member, I might never have learned this lesson. And I might never have...