Resources

Starting Therapy

• SPECIAL: E-BOOK – COVID COPING SKILLS
• Webpage: How to Recognize a Good Therapist
• Webpage: 8 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Seeing a Therapist
• Blog: How to be Your Own Therapist
• Webpage: 19 Critical Ways to Save You from Yourself
• Webpage: 15 Steps to Develop Resilience
• Webpage: 22 More Steps to Develop Resilience
• Webpage: Get Enough Sleep to Reduce Anxiety
• Webpage: 14 Benefits of Paying More Attention To Your Feelings
• Webpage: Where Emotions Are Felt in the Body

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

• PDF: Developing a Mindfulness Practice
• Webpage: Is the Way You’re Breathing Making You Anxious?
• Blog: How to Develop Self-Compassion
• PDF: How to Develop Self-Compassion
• Brief Mindfulness Practices to Reduce Anxiety
• Blog: How to Use Self-Compassion to Stop Blaming Yourself for Everything
• Webpage: John Pavlovitz: Things Someone Who Loved You Should Have Told You
• Webpage: Longer Exhalations Are a Hack for the Vagus Nerve
• Webpage: Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence (NY Times article)
• Webpage: 8 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself (NY Times)
• Webpage: How Noticing Your Thoughts Leads to Healthier Habits of Mind
• Webpage: How to Build Healthy Empathy
• Webpage: Lean in to Caring and Compassion to Reduce Burnout
• Webpage: If You Have a Hard Time with Self-Compassion, This Could Help
• Webpage: The Importance of Self-Acceptance and 4 Ways to Achieve it
• Webpage: Neuroscience Reveals How Gratitude Rewires Your Brain
• Center for Mindfulness: Free Guided Meditations
• Resources on Shame, from Center for Healing Shame
• Chart: Shame Reactions
• The Power of Forgiveness
• Webpage: Dr. Germer: The Near and Far Enemies of Fierce Compassion

General Adult

• PDF: “Three-Circle Model’ of Fear, Soothing, & Drive
• Conquering Anxiety
• Webpage: 10 Best Anxiety Management Tips
• Blog: Customize Your Coping Skills
• Blog: How the Fight-or-Flight Response Affects Emotional Health
• Webpage: Effect of Sleep Deprivation on the Brain and Body
• Video: Criticism when you’ve had a bad childhood
• Assertiveness Workbook
• Webpage: The Long-lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on Your Self-Worth
• Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
• Webpage: 11 Habits of Genuinely Likable People

Parenting

• PDF: Reflective Listening
• Webpage: Reflective Listening With PreSchoolers
• Webpage: Five Ways to Talk with Your Kids So They Feel Loved
• Blog: Parenting Tactics That Build A Child’s Emotional Health
• Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
• Resource List: Articles on How to Help Your Child Develop Social and Emotional Core Competencies
• Webpage: Social and Emotional Core Competencies for Children
• Video: Dr. Peter Breggin on Good Parenting and the Harms of Psychiatric Medication
• Webpate: Self-Compassion for Parents
• Webpage: Harvard Scientists Identify 5 Way Parents Can Raise “Good” Kids
• Webpage: Connecting with Challenging Kids by Leaning in to Discomfort
• Webpage: Anxiety and Disruptive Behavior in Children
• PDF: ADHD Parent Teacher Handout
• Website: How Exercise Helps Brain Development in Kids with ADHD
• Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
• Blog: ADHD Tips for Parents
• Webpage: How Parents Stifle Individuation
• Webpage: The Harms of Over-Protective Parenting
• Webpage: How to Motivate Your Teen
• Webpage: Parenting After Tantrums
• Webpage: The Six Ways Good Parents Contribute to Anxiety in Children
• Webpage: 10 Psychological Studies on Good Parenting Habits
• Webpage: What Teens Need Most from Parents
• Video: Parenting after Experiencing Childhood Trauma
• Webpage: Parenting With ACES (childhood trauma)
• Webpage: Infographic on The Effects of Helicopter Parenting
• Webpage: Getting Kids Unhooked from Tech
• Webpage: Negative Effects of Tech on Children
• Webpage: The Long-Lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on a Child’ Self-Worth
• Webpage: Sleep Tips for Children
• Webpage: Why Attachment Parenting is Not the Same Thing as Secure Attachment
• YouTube: Narcissists and Children
• Blog: How to Tell Your Children about Separation and Divorce
• Webpage: Five Ways to Help Teens Build Self-worth
• Webpage: In the Absence of the Village, Mothers Struggle Most
• Blog: The Rebellion of Over-Criticized Child, by Leon Seltzer
• Webpage: The effects of praise: 7 evidence-based tips for using praise wisely
• How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger

Trauma

• ACES Sciene 101 & FAQ
• Preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences Can Reduce Chronic Disease
• Website: Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire
• Website: The Crappy Childhood Fairy: What is Childhood PTSD? 
• Website: 6 Common Events That Can Trigger Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
• Video: How Childhood Trauma Affects Your Emotional and Physical Health Across a Lifetime
• Website: How to Rewire Your Traumatized Brain
• Website: Harvard University Center on the Developing Child: Childhood Trauma Resources
• Website: Books and Therapies for Healing Chronic Illness Caused by Trauma
• Website: Addiction Rooted in Childhood Trauma 
• Free e-books on Trauma by Dr. Veronique Mead
• PDF: ACES Trauma Handout for Parents 
• Blog: Misattunement: The Invisible ACE

Narcissism/Relational Abuse

• Website: Narcissist Abuse Support by Tracey Malone. Has extensive information on characteristics of various narcissistic abusive people, red flags, and how to co-parent with an abusive ex.
• Article: The Strength of the Scapegoat in the Narcissist Family
• Narcissist Family Ties Website: Dear Therapist: You Missed My Husband’s Narcissism and it Devastated Our Family
• The Dyadic Pairing of the Pathological Narcissist and Co-Narcissist Victim
• Raised by a Narcissistic Parent? 11 Healing Things to Do Right Now
• Video: The Narcissist’s Family Cult
• Blog: Understanding How Narcissistic Traits Relate to Shame Intolerance
• Website: Characteristics of a Narcissistic Mother
• Website: The Narcissistic Mother
• Website: Why Does Your Narcissistic Partner Always Blame You?
• Website: The Loyalty Bind of the Narcissist’s Child
• Website: The Effects of Narcissists on Relationships
• Website: The Gray Rock Methods of Dealing with Narcissists
• Website: 25 Signs of Covert Narcissism
• Website: Neuroscience: The shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain
• Website: Why Do People Become Narcissists?
• Slide Show: Complete Description of Abusive Covert Narcissists
• Website: 20 Things People with Childhood Emotional Neglect Often Say
• Website: Why Is It So Hard to Leave the Narcissist in Your Life?
• Website: From the Spouse of a Narcissist: Here’s What You Need to Know
• Website: 7 Stellar Traits That Make Women Unwitting Sources of Narcissistic Supply
• Blog: Divorcing a Narcissist: 14 Tips to Get You Battle Ready
• Blog: When the Narcissist Fails

Relationships

• Blog: What to Expect in Emotionally Focused Therapy
• PDF: EFCT Infinity Loop/Relationship Pattern Model
• Dr. Jonice Webb: 5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Set Up By Childhood Emotional Neglect
• Blog: Why Relationships Go Bad, According to Science
• Video: Healing Attachment Wounds and Trauma
• Video: The Challenge of Being Close
• Video: What is your Attachment Style?
• Webpage: Seven Reasons to Blame Your Partner (And Why None are Good)
• Webpage: Anger: When Adults Act Like Children — And Why
• Webpage: Anger and Intimacy: Incompatible but Unavoidable Housemates
• Wbbpage: 10 Habits of People in Happy Relationships
• Webpage: How a Husband Accidentally Learned to Really Listen to his Wife
• Video: Love Sense: Sue Johnson and Edward Tronick Discuss Attachment Bonding in Relationships
• Webpage: Develop Emotional Fluency in Relationships
• PDF: Masters of Love Article (The Atlantic)
• Webpage: 10 Signs You Have Trust Issues
• Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
• Video: Jon Allen, PhD, Interview on Trauma and Attachment Relationships
• Webpage: 5 Principles that Unleash Your Power of Communication
• Blog: Rupture & Repair in Relationships
• Webpage: Why Emotional Safety is the Defining Feature of Good Sex
• Webpage: Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
• Webpage: I Can’t Stop Cheating on My Girlfriend
• Webpage: How Do I Leave My Lying, Cheating Boyfriend?
• Webpage: Identifying Covert Narcissists
• Webpage: How Your Parents Affect Your Relationships Through Attachment Patterns
• Webpate: Is Couple’s Therapy a Waste of Time?
• Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood? (And how does it affect your adult relationships?)
• Webpage: Compassionate Boundaries: How to Say No with Heart
• Webpage: How Quick Are You to Take Offense? 10 Powerful Remedies
• Webpage: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection
• Webpage: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love

Medication Issues & Withdrawal

• Blog: Psychiatric Medication Withdrawal Resources
• 12 Essential Facts About Psychiatry
• Webpage: In Recovery from Antidepressants (An excellent summary of psychiatric drug harms and good resource links.)
• Webpage: Study Finds ADHD Drugs Alter Developing Brain
• New York Times: Many People Taking Antidepressants Discover They Cannot Stop
• Webpage: 8 Years of Mental Health Research Distilled to 4 Infographics
• Webpage: Do You Need Antidepressant Medication?
• PDF: Unbiased Medication Information
• Webpage: The Harmful Effects of Antidepressants
• Webpage: Antidepressants: 10 Shocking Studies Everyone Should Know 
• Webpage: The Harmful Effects of Benzodiazepines (Xanax, Klonopin, Ativan, Valium, etc)
• Webpage: Infographic on Harms and Benefits of Bi-polar Drugs
• Blog: Lasting Damage from Prescribed Drugs
• The New Yorker: The Challenge of Going Off Psychiatric Drugs
• These 10 Books Will Transform theWay You Think About Mental Health
• Website: Dr. Kelly Brogan Books and Free Resources
• Website: Dr. Breggin: Overcoming the Madness In Us All