Resources
Starting Therapy
- SPECIAL: E-BOOK – COVID COPING SKILLS
- Webpage: How to Recognize a Good Therapist
- Webpage: 8 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Seeing a Therapist
- Blog: How to be Your Own Therapist
- Webpage: 19 Critical Ways to Save You from Yourself
- Webpage: 15 Steps to Develop Resilience
- Webpage: 22 More Steps to Develop Resilience
- Webpage: Get Enough Sleep to Reduce Anxiety
- Webpage: 14 Benefits of Paying More Attention To Your Feelings
- Webpage: Where Emotions Are Felt in the Body
Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
- PDF: Developing a Mindfulness Practice
- Blog: How to Develop Self-Compassion
- Brief Mindfulness Practices to Reduce Anxiety
- Blog: How to Use Self-Compassion to Stop Blaming Yourself for Everything
- Webpage: John Pavlovitz: Things Someone Who Loved You Should Have Told You
- Webpage: Longer Exhalations Are a Hack for the Vagus Nerve
- Webpage: Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence (NY Times article)
- Webpage: 8 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself (NY Times)
- Webpage: How Noticing Your Thoughts Leads to Healthier Habits of Mind
- Webpage: How to Build Healthy Empathy
- Webpage: Lean in to Caring and Compassion to Reduce Burnout
- Webpage: If You Have a Hard Time with Self-Compassion, This Could Help
- Webpage: The Importance of Self-Acceptance and 4 Ways to Achieve it
- Webpage: Neuroscience Reveals How Gratitude Rewires Your Brain
- Center for Mindfulness: Free Guided Meditations
- Resources on Shame, from Center for Healing Shame
- Chart: Shame Reactions
- The Power of Forgiveness
- Webpage: Dr. Germer: The Near and Far Enemies of Fierce Compassion
General Adult
- PDF: “Three-Circle Model’ of Fear, Soothing, & Drive
- Conquering Anxiety
- Webpage: 10 Best Anxiety Management Tips
- Blog: Customize Your Coping Skills
- Blog: How the Fight-or-Flight Response Affects Emotional Health
- Webpage: Effect of Sleep Deprivation on the Brain and Body
- Video: Criticism when you’ve had a bad childhood
- Assertiveness Workbook
- Webpage: The Long-lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on Your Self-Worth
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
- Webpage: 11 Habits of Genuinely Likable People
Parenting
- PDF: Reflective Listening
- Webpage: Reflective Listening With PreSchoolers
- Webpage: Five Ways to Talk with Your Kids So They Feel Loved
- Blog: Parenting Tactics That Build A Child’s Emotional Health
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
- Resource List: Articles on How to Help Your Child Develop Social and Emotional Core Competencies
- Webpage: Social and Emotional Core Competencies for Children
- Video: Dr. Peter Breggin on Good Parenting and the Harms of Psychiatric Medication
- Webpate: Self-Compassion for Parents
- Webpage: Harvard Scientists Identify 5 Way Parents Can Raise “Good” Kids
- Webpage: Connecting with Challenging Kids by Leaning in to Discomfort
- Webpage: Anxiety and Disruptive Behavior in Children
- PDF: ADHD Parent Teacher Handout
- Website: How Exercise Helps Brain Development in Kids with ADHD
- Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
- Blog: ADHD Tips for Parents
- Webpage: How Parents Stifle Individuation
- Webpage: The Harms of Over-Protective Parenting
- Webpage: How to Motivate Your Teen
- Webpage: Parenting After Tantrums
- Webpage: The Six Ways Good Parents Contribute to Anxiety in Children
- Webpage: 10 Psychological Studies on Good Parenting Habits
- Webpage: What Teens Need Most from Parents
- Video: Parenting after Experiencing Childhood Trauma
- Webpage: Parenting With ACES (childhood trauma)
- Webpage: Infographic on The Effects of Helicopter Parenting
- Webpage: Getting Kids Unhooked from Tech
- Webpage: Negative Effects of Tech on Children
- Webpage: The Long-Lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on a Child’ Self-Worth
- Webpage: Sleep Tips for Children
- Webpage: Why Attachment Parenting is Not the Same Thing as Secure Attachment
- YouTube: Narcissists and Children
- Blog: How to Tell Your Children about Separation and Divorce
- Webpage: Five Ways to Help Teens Build Self-worth
- Webpage: In the Absence of the Village, Mothers Struggle Most
- Blog: The Rebellion of Over-Criticized Child, by Leon Seltzer
- Webpage: The effects of praise: 7 evidence-based tips for using praise wisely
Trauma
- Preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences Can Reduce Chronic Disease
- Website: Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire
- Website: 6 Common Events That Can Trigger Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
- Video: How Childhood Trauma Affects Your Emotional and Physical Health Across a Lifetime
- Website: How to Rewire Your Traumatized Brain
- Website: Harvard University Center on the Developing Child: Childhood Trauma Resources
- Website: Books and Therapies for Healing Chronic Illness Caused by Trauma
- Website: Addiction Rooted in Childhood Trauma
- Free e-books on Trauma by Dr. Veronique Mead
- PDF: ACES Trauma Handout for Parents
- Blog: Misattunement: The Invisible ACE
Narcissism/Relational Abuse
- Website: Narcissist Abuse Support by Tracey Malone. Has extensive information on characteristics of various narcissistic abusive people, red flags, and how to co-parent with an abusive ex.
- The Dyadic Pairing of the Pathological Narcissist and Co-Narcissist Victim
- Raised by a Narcissistic Parent? 11 Healing Things to Do Right Now
- Video: The Narcissist’s Family Cult
- Blog: Understanding How Narcissistic Traits Relate to Shame Intolerance
- Website: Characteristics of a Narcissistic Mother
- Website: The Narcissistic Mother
- Website: Why Does Your Narcissistic Partner Always Blame You?
- Website: The Loyalty Bind of the Narcissist’s Child
- Website: The Effects of Narcissists on Relationships
- Website: The Gray Rock Methods of Dealing with Narcissists
- Website: 25 Signs of Covert Narcissism
- Website: Neuroscience: The shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain
- Website: Why Do People Become Narcissists?
- Slide Show: Complete Description of Abusive Covert Narcissists
- Website: 20 Things People with Childhood Emotional Neglect Often Say
- Website: Why Is It So Hard to Leave the Narcissist in Your Life?
- Website: From the Spouse of a Narcissist: Here’s What You Need to Know
- Website: 7 Stellar Traits That Make Women Unwitting Sources of Narcissistic Supply
- Blog: Divorcing a Narcissist: 14 Tips to Get You Battle Ready
Relationships
- Blog: What to Expect in Emotionally Focused Therapy
- EFCT Infinity Loop/Relationship Pattern Model
- Dr. Jonice Webb: 5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Set Up By Childhood Emotional Neglect
- Blog: Why Relationships Go Bad, According to Science
- Video: Healing Attachment Wounds and Trauma
- Video: The Challenge of Being Close
- Video: What is your Attachment Style?
- Webpage: Seven Reasons to Blame Your Partner (And Why None are Good)
- Webpage: Anger: When Adults Act Like Children — And Why
- Webpage: Anger and Intimacy: Incompatible but Unavoidable Housemates
- Wbbpage: 10 Habits of People in Happy Relationships
- Webpage: How a Husband Accidentally Learned to Really Listen to his Wife
- Video: Love Sense: Sue Johnson and Edward Tronick Discuss Attachment Bonding in Relationships
- Webpage: Develop Emotional Fluency in Relationships
- PDF: Masters of Love Article (The Atlantic)
- Webpage: 10 Signs You Have Trust Issues
- Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
- Video: Jon Allen, PhD, Interview on Trauma and Attachment Relationships
- Webpage: 5 Principles that Unleash Your Power of Communication
- Blog: Rupture & Repair in Relationships
- Webpage: Why Emotional Safety is the Defining Feature of Good Sex
- Webpage: Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
- Webpage: I Can’t Stop Cheating on My Girlfriend
- Webpage: How Do I Leave My Lying, Cheating Boyfriend?
- Webpage: Identifying Covert Narcissists
- Webpage: How Your Parents Affect Your Relationships Through Attachment Patterns
- Webpate: Is Couple’s Therapy a Waste of Time?
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood? (And how does it affect your adult relationships?)
- Webpage: Compassionate Boundaries: How to Say No with Heart
- Webpage: How Quick Are You to Take Offense? 10 Powerful Remedies
- Webpage: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection
- Webpage: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
Medication
- 12 Essential Facts About Psychiatry
- Webpage: In Recovery from Antidepressants (An excellent summary of psychiatric drug harms and good resource links.)
- Website: Surviving Antidepressants (Forum with tapering strategies).
- Website: International Antidepressant Withdrawal Project
- Webpage: Study Finds ADHD Drugs Alter Developing Brain
- Webpages: Mind.org Psychiatric Drug Withdrawal Information
- Chaya Grossberg’s website offers a free e-book and many resources on psychiatric drug withdrawal
- New York Times: Many People Taking Antidepressants Discover They Cannot Stop
- Webpage: 8 Years of Mental Health Research Distilled to 4 Infographics
- Webpage: Do You Need Antidepressant Medication?
- PDF: Coming Off Psychiatric Drugs Harm Reduction Guide
- Webpage: International Society for Ethical Psychology and Psychiatry URLs for weaning off psychiatric drugs.
- PDF: Unbiased Medication Information
- Webpage: The Harmful Effects of Antidepressants
- Webpage: Antidepressants: 10 Shocking Studies Everyone Should Know
- Webpage: The Harmful Effects of Benzodiazepines (Xanax, Klonopin, Ativan, Valium, etc)
- Webpage: The Ashton Manual: How to Withdraw from Benzodiazepines
- Webpage: Infographic on Harms and Benefits of Bi-polar Drugs
- Blog: Lasting Damage from Prescribed Drugs
- The New Yorker: The Challenge of Going Off Psychiatric Drugs
- Website and Forums: Benzo Buddies (for benzodiazepine information)
- These 10 Books Will Transform theWay You Think About Mental Health
- Website: Dr. Kelly Brogan Books and Free Resources
- Website: Dr. Breggin: Overcoming the Madness In Us All