Resources
Starting Therapy
- RECOMMENDED: Attachment and Therapy
- SPECIAL: E-BOOK – COVID COPING SKILLS
- How to Recognize a Good Therapist
- 8 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Seeing a Therapist
- Blog: How to be Your Own Therapist
- 19 Critical Ways to Save You from Yourself
- 15 Steps to Develop Resilience
- 22 More Steps to Develop Resilience
- Webpage: Get Enough Sleep to Reduce Anxiety
- 14 Benefits of Paying More Attention To Your Feelings
- Where Emotions Are Felt in the Body
- Assertiveness Workbook
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
- Blog: What is Self-Acceptance and Emotion Health
- Raised By Emotionally Neglectful Parents: 17 Signs to Look For
- How to Exercise Yourself Happy
Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
- PDF: Developing a Mindfulness Practice
- Center for Mindfulness: Free Guided Meditations
- Is the Way You’re Breathing Making You Anxious?
- RECOMMENDED: Blog: How to Improve Self-Worth with Self-Compassion
- RECOMMENDED: CNN Anderson Cooper Interviews Dr. Chris Germer: 28-minute version
- CNN Anderson Cooper Interviews Dr. Chris Germer: 4-minute version
- RECOMMENDED: Yoga Journal: The Science of Compassion
- 19 Techniques to Calm a Highly Sensitive Nervous System
- Brief Mindfulness Practices to Reduce Anxiety
- Blog: How to Use Self-Compassion to Stop Blaming Yourself for Everything
- John Pavlovitz: Things Someone Who Loved You Should Have Told You
- Longer Exhalations Are a Hack for the Vagus Nerve
- Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence (NY Times article)
- 8 Ways to be Kinder to Yourself (NY Times)
- How Noticing Your Thoughts Leads to Healthier Habits of Mind
- How to Build Healthy Empathy
- Lean in to Caring and Compassion to Reduce Burnout
- The Importance of Self-Acceptance and 4 Ways to Achieve it
- Neuroscience Reveals How Gratitude Rewires Your Brain
- Resources on Shame, from Center for Healing Shame
- Chart: Shame Reactions
- The Power of Forgiveness
- Dr. Germer: The Near and Far Enemies of Fierce Compassion
Anxiety & Depression
- PDF: CFT Model of Threat, Soothing, & Drive
- PDF: Conquering Anxiety
- Your Anxiety Might be Coming From Your Body
- How to Stop Overthinking
- Blog: Customize Your Coping Skills
- Blog: How the Fight-or-Flight Response Affects Emotional Health
- We’ve Got Depression All Wrong; It’s Trying to Save Us
- Video: Criticism when you’ve had a bad childhood\
- The Long-lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on Your Self-Worth
Parenting
- Blog: Reflective Listening
- Reflective Listening With PreSchoolers
- RECOMMENDED: 10 Steps to Stop Toxic Parenting
- RECOMMENDED: How to be a Calmer Parent: TEAM Parenting
- Blog: 10 Parenting Tips That Build A Child’s Emotional Health
- Simplifying Childhood May Protect Against Mental Health Issues
- Why It’s Important to Free Your Child From the Burden of Shame
- Five Ways to Talk with Your Kids So They Feel Loved
- 13 Abusive Behaviors You Might Not Be Aware You are Doing as a Parent
- 52 Questions to Ask a Child Instead of “How Was Your Day?
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood?
- Resource List: Articles on How to Help Your Child Develop Social and Emotional Core Competencies
- Video: Dr. Peter Breggin on Good Parenting and the Harms of Psychiatric Medication
- Getting Kids Unhooked from Tech
- Negative Effects of Tech on Children
- The Long-Lasting Effect of Parental Criticism on a Child’ Self-Worth
- Sleep Tips for Children
- Why Attachment Parenting is Not the Same Thing as Secure Attachment
- How Parents Stifle Individuation
- The Harms of Over-Protective Parenting
- Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
- Blog: How to Tell Your Children about Separation and Divorce
- The Rebellion of Over-Criticized Child, by Leon Seltzer
- The effects of praise: 7 evidence-based tips for using praise wisely
- How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger
- 10 Secrets of Effective Discipline with the Strong Willed Child
- Why Consequences Aren’t Working to Change Your Child’s Misbehavior (and What Will)
Parenting: ADHD & Behavioral Problems
- Blog: ADHD Tips for Parents
- PDF: ADHD Parent Teacher Handout
- Connecting with Challenging Kids by Leaning in to Discomfort
- How Exercise Helps Brain Development in Kids with ADHD
- The Six Ways Good Parents Contribute to Anxiety in Children
Parenting: Toddlers
Parenting: Adolescents
- How to Motivate Your Teen
- What Teens Need Most from Parents
- Infographic on The Effects of Helicopter Parenting
- Five Ways to Help Teens Build Self-worth
Compassion for the Parent
- Self-Compassion for Parents
- Video: Parenting after Experiencing Childhood Trauma
- Parenting With ACES (childhood trauma)
- YouTube: Narcissists and Children
- In the Absence of the Village, Mothers Struggle Most
Trauma
- ACES Science 101 & FAQ
- Adverse Childhood Relationship Experiences (ACRE) / Attachment Trauma by Veronique Meade
- Preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences Can Reduce Chronic Disease
- Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire
- The Crappy Childhood Fairy: What is Childhood PTSD?
- 6 Common Events That Can Trigger Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
- Video: How Childhood Trauma Affects Your Emotional and Physical Health Across a Lifetime
- Harvard University Center on the Developing Child: Childhood Trauma Resources
- Books and Therapies for Healing Chronic Illness Caused by Trauma
- Addiction Rooted in Childhood Trauma
- Free e-books on Trauma by Dr. Veronique Mead
- Blog: Misattunement: The Invisible ACE
- 20 Things People with Childhood Emotional Neglect Often Say
Narcissism/Relational Abuse
- Early Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
- Website: Narcissist Abuse Support by Tracey Malone. Has extensive information on characteristics of various narcissistic abusive people, red flags, and how to co-parent with an abusive ex.
- Psychology Today: Effect of Narcissistic Parents on Children
- Why Daughters of Unloving Mothers Struggle with Shame
- The Strength of the Scapegoat in the Narcissist Family
- Narcissist Family Ties Website: Dear Therapist: You Missed My Husband’s Narcissism and it Devastated Our Family
- The Dyadic Pairing of the Pathological Narcissist and Co-Narcissist Victim
- Raised by a Narcissistic Parent? 11 Healing Things to Do Right Now
- Video: The Narcissist’s Family Cult
- Blog: Understanding How Narcissistic Traits Relate to Shame Intolerance
- The Loyalty Bind of the Narcissist’s Child
- The Gray Rock Methods of Dealing with Narcissists
- 25 Signs of Covert Narcissism
- Neuroscience: The shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain
- Why Do People Become Narcissists?
- Why Is It So Hard to Leave the Narcissist in Your Life?
- From the Spouse of a Narcissist: Here’s What You Need to Know
- Divorcing a Narcissist: 14 Tips to Get You Battle Ready
- When the Narcissist Fails
- 10 Signs You are Dating a Narcissist
Relationships
- Blog: What to Expect in Emotionally Focused Therapy
- What is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and Who Can It Help
- PDF: EFCT Infinity Loop/Relationship Pattern Model
- Is Couple’s Therapy a Waste of Time?
- How to Talk About Sexual Desire
- Video: The Challenge of Being Close
- Video: What is your Attachment Style?
- Anger: When Adults Act Like Children — And Why
- Anger and Intimacy: Incompatible but Unavoidable Housemates
- 10 Habits of People in Happy Relationships
- How a Husband Accidentally Learned to Really Listen to his Wife
- Video: Love Sense: Sue Johnson and Edward Tronick Discuss Attachment Bonding in Relationships
- Develop Emotional Fluency in Relationships
- PDF: Masters of Love Article (The Atlantic)
- 10 Signs You Have Trust Issues
- Video: Attachment Theory and Emotional Regulation
- Video: Jon Allen, PhD, Interview on Trauma and Attachment Relationships
- 5 Principles that Unleash Your Power of Communication
- Rupture & Repair in Relationships
- Why Emotional Safety is the Defining Feature of Good Sex
- Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
- I Can’t Stop Cheating on My Girlfriend
- How Do I Leave My Lying, Cheating Boyfriend?
- How Your Parents Affect Your Relationships Through Attachment Patterns
- Video: What is an Emotionally Healthy Childhood? (And how does it affect your adult relationships?)
- Compassionate Boundaries: How to Say No with Heart
- How Quick Are You to Take Offense? 10 Powerful Remedies
- Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection
- Article & Audio: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
Psychiatric Medication Issues
- How Psychiatric Drugs Work on the Brain
- Facts on Psychiatric Drugs & Informed Consent Questions to Ask Your Doctor
- Do You Still Believe in the “Chemical Imbalance Theory of Mental Illness”?
- 12 Essential Facts About Psychiatry
- Website: AntidepressantRisks.org
- In Recovery from Antidepressants (A summary of psychiatric drug harms and good resource links.)
- Study Finds ADHD Drugs Alter Developing Brain
- New York Times: Many People Taking Antidepressants Discover They Cannot Stop
- 8 Years of Mental Health Research Distilled to 4 Infographics
- PDF: Unbiased Medication Information
- The Harmful Effects of Antidepressants
- Antidepressants: 10 Shocking Studies Everyone Should Know
- Infographic on Harms and Benefits of Bi-polar Drugs
- Lasting Damage from Prescribed Drugs
- These 10 Books Will Transform the Way You Think About Mental Health