by Harper West | Dec 14, 2021 | Domestic Violence, Other-Blamer, Relationships
Janine is divorcing her emotionally abusive narcissistic husband and our weekly therapy sessions are often an exploration of her rollercoaster of conflicting feelings. She is grieving a marriage ending and life not turning out as she had hoped. Naturally, she has...
by Harper West | Oct 27, 2021 | Emotions, Relationships
Where does communication go wrong? Often, I find that when clients tell me about their communication struggles what goes unsaid is often more important that what is said. In addition, I find that saying what is being experienced in the moment is very powerful, but it...
by Harper West | Aug 26, 2021 | Relationships
One of my local radio stations has a morning show feature called Dealbreakers, where they have one person call in to complain about a partner and seek advice about whether this complaint is a dealbreaker worth ending the relationship over. I heard one show...
by Harper West | Aug 17, 2021 | Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, Relationships
Jordan and Roxann had been in couples therapy on and off for about six months and had made many improvements, but they still sometimes struggled with communication. Their latest conflict can provide insights into how to REALLY improve communication in your...
by Harper West | Oct 23, 2017 | Relationships
What to Expect in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples Entering couple therapy can be a nerve-wracking experience for most people. They often expect that it will turn into an arguing match and make things worse, or fear that the therapist will choose sides and pass...
by Harper West | Sep 6, 2016 | Conflict Avoidance, Relationships
I recently saw a male client who was upset about his wife’s possible affair. She had been staying out drinking on weeknights until 1 am, leaving him with the kids. For years she had also been under-functioning in the home, so that he had to do most of the childcare...
