by Harper West | Oct 18, 2019 | Other-Blamer, Uncategorized
When I first meet with a new patient to do an assessment, one of the things I watch for is the way they speak about subjects. Specifically, I listen for how specific they are. (Couldn’t help myself!) There are many reasons for this, as it can indicate problems...
by Harper West | Aug 28, 2019 | Other-Blamer, Shame, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump
Ask just about anyone about Trump’s psychology, and they conclude that, like all bullies, he is a very insecure person. As many have noted: “You don’t need a fancy diploma to figure out what is wrong with Trump.” I would agree — even though I do have a degree in...
by Harper West | Jul 11, 2019 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump
Book Review: “Disordered Minds: How Dangerous Personalities Are Destroying Democracy” By Ian Hughes (Zero Books, 2018) Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot and Mao were not aberrations and America is not immune. This can happen any time a paranoid, sociopathic and...
by Harper West | Jun 23, 2019 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
How to Talk to a Narcissist (Other-blamers) The first rule with Other-blamers is: Don’t talk to them if you don’t have to. Disconnect from the relationship physically if possible. If you must deal with a narcissist… Don’t start a conversation with a narcissist without...
by Harper West | Jun 22, 2019 | Other-Blamer
I was recently reminded of an incident involving a spider that provides instructive wisdom on how to spot a narcissist, or what I call an Other-blamer. (Names are changed to protect the guilty parties.) A number of years ago a friend, Patty, called to ask if her...
by Harper West | Jun 7, 2018 | Other-Blamer, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump
Check out a very worthwhile read in The New Yorker on the amazing parallels in dysfunctional, narcissistic behavior between Donald Trump and Kaiser Wilhelm II of Germany. The article is by Miranda Carter, who wrote a biography, “George, Nicholas and Wilhelm: Three...
