by Harper West | Feb 5, 2023 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people ask me how to spot a narcissist or what I call an “Other-Blamer” early on in relationships. Watching for the following “verbal tells” is one way to do it. We often think of lack of accountability as the inability to admit fault and apologize. However, we...
by Harper West | Dec 26, 2021 | Empathy, Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Many people are aware of the need to set boundaries with others, especially with those who have narcissistic or Other-Blamer traits. Often the focus is on setting limitations on behaviors and words, such as telling your spouse that they cannot swear at you or they...
by Harper West | Aug 24, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
If you’ve ever argued with a narcissist you know how maddening it can be. Every logical or factual approach seems to go nowhere and, in fact, seems to make them more angry and defensive. In contrast, explaining your point of view a relationship with an emotionally...
by Harper West | Jul 19, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump, Trump
This Salon article describes what I have said in the past — that it IS (almost) impossible to argue with the right wing. I believe most Trumpers have antisocial or narcissistic personalities and this shows up in how they converse with those who disagree with them. I...
by Harper West | May 5, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
Information about how to spot a narcissistic parent or partner and how to manage them has exploded in the past five years. There is less information available on how a narcissistic sibling affects the personality of a brother or sister. This is likely because the role...
by Harper West | Apr 11, 2021 | Narcissist, Other-Blamer
One of the best ways to break the trauma bond between a narcissist and a victim is for the victim to learn that these selfish, immoral individuals are struggling with their own emotional issues, notably shame intolerance. It can be a powerful shift in the victim to...
