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Harper West, Psychotherapist & Author

About Harper West, Psychotherapist

Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and attachment-focused child and family therapy. Trained in both Mindful Self-Compassion and Compassion-Focused Therapy.

Harper West is a contributing author of #1 Amazon and #4 New York Times bestselling “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump,” and award-winning “Pack Leader Psychology.” logo
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Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold lacquer, resulting in something more beautiful than the original. In celebrating a history of imperfections, the art form reminds us to embrace our own flaws, perhaps even finding the shining beauty and value in our healed scars.

Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.

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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure

with equanimity

is self-actualization and enlightenment. 

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The Power of Self-Acceptance

Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.

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Improve Your Relationships

What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.

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An Outraged Psychologist Speaks Out

Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.

Recent Posts

Mindful Self-Compassion Workshop Starts January 2019

Why not give yourself the gift of self-compassion? Join me in Clarkston, Michigan, for an 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion Workshop, beginning Sunday, January 6, 2-4 pm. Learn to dial down your "inner critic," practice meditations that build compassion for yourself and...

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Trump’s Fearful World View is the Biggest Danger

Many were shocked when in a CBS News interview on July 14 President Donald Trump stated: “Well, I think we have a lot of foes. I think the European Union is a foe, what they do to us in trade.”  This is one of innumerable outright lies and diplomatic disasters by...

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We Can’t Wait for “A Sign” that Trump is Unraveling

With the tsunami of evidence of Donald Trump’s dangerous mental instability crashing daily into my news feed, my frustration at the lack of action by members of Congress and the Cabinet mounts to a level of high urgency.  Those who dismiss or downplay Trump’s cruelty,...

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Donald’s Dangerous Doubling Down

In blackjack, doubling down means a player doubles their original bet when the remaining deck is offering extremely favorable odds of making a total of twenty-one. According to,"The term is increasingly used as a media euphemism when political...

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