Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, child and family therapy, Mindful Self-compassion training, and assertiveness training.
Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.
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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure
is self-actualization and enlightenment.
Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.
What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.
Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.
This blog is for mental health professionals: I have had more than one person come into therapy saying they left their last therapist because he or she was too passive and non-responsive in therapy. “All they did was listen, but they didn’t offer me any feedback.” ...read more
excerpted from and based on the Compassion-Focused Therapy protocol by Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS Feelings of shame, inadequacy, or low self-worth are core causes of most emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, anger, and substance abuse issues....read more
One of the initial debates about speaking up about Donald Trump’s mental health was about whether it was ethical for professionals to do so. Did psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors and social workers have the right to discuss a person’s emotional and...read more
Demanding “Civility” is a Classic Narcissistic and Abusive Gaslighting Tactic to Shut Down Criticism
There is no dispute that Incivility pours forth from Donald Trump on a daily basis and has for years. Remember his lies and five-year racist campaign to allege that President Obama was born in Kenya? Remember his bragging of sexual assault and calling women “pigs?”...read more