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Harper West, Psychotherapist & Author

About Harper West, Psychotherapist

Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, child and family therapy, Mindful Self-compassion training, and assertiveness training.

Harper West is a contributing author of #1 Amazon and #4 New York Times bestselling “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump,” and award-winning “Pack Leader Psychology.” logo
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Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold lacquer, resulting in something more beautiful than the original. In celebrating a history of imperfections, the art form reminds us to embrace our own flaws, perhaps even finding the shining beauty and value in our healed scars.

Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.

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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure

with equanimity

is self-actualization and enlightenment. 

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The Power of Self-Acceptance

Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.

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Improve Your Relationships

What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.

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An Outraged Psychologist Speaks Out

Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.

Recent Posts

Psychotherapists: Can You Do Too Much Empathic Listening?

This blog is for mental health professionals:  I have had more than one person come into therapy saying they left their last therapist because he or she was too passive and non-responsive in therapy. “All they did was listen, but they didn’t offer me any feedback.” ...

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How to Develop Self-Compassion

excerpted from and based on the Compassion-Focused Therapy protocol by Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS Feelings of shame, inadequacy, or low self-worth are core causes of most emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, anger, and substance abuse issues....

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Goldwater Rule Rewritten by “Dangerous Case” Authors

One of the initial debates about speaking up about Donald Trump’s mental health was about whether it was ethical for professionals to do so. Did psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors and social workers have the right to discuss a person’s emotional and...

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