Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, child and family therapy, Mindful Self-compassion training, and assertiveness training.
Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.
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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure
is self-actualization and enlightenment.
Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.
What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.
Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.
After each major gun incident pundits revisit the debate: Are mass shooters mentally ill? Conservatives and gun owners s claim that mental illness is the real problem, not the prevalence of gun ownership. Of course, statistics and common sense refute this illogical...read more
To those who say mental health professionals have no business “diagnosing” President Donald Trump “from afar” — I have bad news. I diagnose narcissists from afar every day. In fact, I believe it would be unprofessional and unethical if I did NOT do so. Now,...read more
Shame: The Emotion That Drives Trump’s Behaviors and Causes Tyrants, Narcissists, and Sociopaths: Part 3
In Part 1 of this post, I discussed how shame is the underpinning emotion in Trump’s behaviors. Shame, as a prosocial emotion, is the foundation of morals and ethics, because it mediates fairness and kindness in relationships because poor shame tolerance leads to...read more
Shame: The Emotion That Drives Trump’s Behaviors and Causes Tyrants, Narcissists, and Sociopaths: Part 2
In my previous post I discussed how poor shame tolerance is the root cause of most immoral human behavior that is currently labeled as narcissistic, sociopathic, abusive, or authoritarian. AUTHORITARIAN AND NARCISSISTIC TRAITS ARE ALL RELATED TO SHAME I believe it is...read more