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Harper West, Psychotherapist & Author

About Harper West, Psychotherapist

Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and attachment-focused child and family therapy. Trained in both Mindful Self-Compassion and Compassion-Focused Therapy.

Harper West is a contributing author of #1 Amazon and #4 New York Times bestselling “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump,” and award-winning “Pack Leader Psychology.”

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Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold lacquer, resulting in something more beautiful than the original. In celebrating a history of imperfections, the art form reminds us to embrace our own flaws, perhaps even finding the shining beauty and value in our healed scars.

Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.

Photo courtesy www.lakesidepottery.com

The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure

with equanimity

is self-actualization and enlightenment. 

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The Power of Self-Acceptance

Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.

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Improve Your Relationships

What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.

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An Outraged Psychologist Speaks Out

Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.

Recent Posts

How to Spot a Narcissist: Vague Language and Lots of It

Narcissists also may try to bury their lack of knowledge or poor behavior in an avalanche of words, and this is what our current president does every day. Read any part of this bizarre transcript of a press event President Donald Trump held with Italian president Sergio Mattarella and your head will start spinning.

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Announcing: Workshop on How to Develop Self-Compassion

Stop repeating anxiety-provoking habits of negative thinking and self-criticism! Learn how your mind and body can be harnessed to provide self-soothing. Develop meditation and mindfulness skills to be calm and manage your emotions and thoughts in healthy ways.

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Trump’s Threats and Intimidation are Verbal Abuse

In early 2017, I was one of a group of experts on violence, psychopathology, and authoritarianism who wrote the bestselling book “The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump: 27 Psychiatrists and Mental Health Professionals Assess a President.” Dangerous is a word used...

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How Parents Create Anxiety in a Child

So much of my time in family therapy is spent on parenting education about the inadvertent ways parents create anxiety in a child. As this article explains, through their communication and disciplining methods parents can make a child fearful.  Most parents come to...

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