Harper West is a licensed psychotherapist and expert in improving relationships with yourself and others through self-acceptance. She is an expert in recovery from relationships with narcissistic or abusive partners or parents. Providing relationship therapy using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and attachment-focused child and family therapy. Trained in both Mindful Self-Compassion and Compassion-Focused Therapy.
Peter Mayer’s song Japanese Bowl (on YouTube) explains this philosophy beautifully.
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The ability to handle shame, imperfection and failure
is self-actualization and enlightenment.
Do you want to feel more calm, contented and fulfilled? Be truly self-confident? Learn how achieving self-acceptance permanently frees the mind from low self-worth and self-blaming thoughts that lie at the heart of many experiences with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and other struggles.
What emotion is most harmful to relationships? The answer may surprise you. Read a real life example of a rocky marriage and learn the root cause of most relationship difficulties, including high-conflict marriages and family relationships, domestic violence, abusive parenting, substance abuse and more.
Why are normal human reactions — fear, shame, self-criticism — incorrectly labeled as “mental disorders?” The “disease” model promoted by pharmaceutical manufacturers and our mental health system discourages people from seeking therapy that can lead to solutions to anxiety, depression and more.
Given Donald Trump’s low poll numbers, many political pundits have wondered: Why does Trump incite racist hatred among his base? This political strategy certainly seems to excite the most ardent followers in the Trump cult, who chant “send her back” at his rallies and...read more
Book Review: "Disordered Minds: How Dangerous Personalities Are Destroying Democracy" By Ian Hughes (Zero Books, 2018) Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot and Mao were not aberrations and America is not immune. This can happen any time a paranoid, sociopathic and narcissistic...read more
How to Talk to a Narcissist (Other-blamers) The first rule with Other-blamers is: Don’t talk to them if you don’t have to. Disconnect from the relationship physically if possible. If you must deal with a narcissist… Don’t start a conversation with a narcissist without...read more
I was recently reminded of an incident involving a spider that provides instructive wisdom on how to spot a narcissist, or what I call an Other-blamer. (Names are changed to protect the guilty parties.) A number of years ago a friend, Patty, called to ask if her...read more